Your ego is there protecting you from embarrassment and failure, eliciting fear and self doubt. It has built for us a cognitive distortion based on automatic thought and emotional response.
Become aware of the involuntary and automatic thought based on emotion elicited by the voice of ego. These thoughts involve speculation and judgment of the present situations based on messages from the past or anticipation of future situations. The thought may or may not be reasonable or true.
In any situation where a strong emotional response is provoked, ask yourself the following questions to bring more awareness to your involuntary thoughts:
- What was going through my mind just before I started feeling this way?
- What does this say about me if it is true?
- What does this mean about my life at present?
- What does this mean about my life in the future?
- What do I fear might happen?
- What is the worst thing that can happen if it is true?
- What images or memories do I have about this situation?
- When there is someone else involved what does this mean about their thoughts of me?
Keep in mind your answers may be based on subconscious conditioning and your protective ego. Begin to practice listening to the voice in your head without judging it in any way and avoid getting caught up in its contents. Consciously move from fear and doubt based instinct, to knowing you are in control and can choose to build upon positive experience and create a habit that interrupts the negative patterns reinforced by ego. Accept and focus on possibility and your ability to persevere and overcome any situation. Replace self doubt with hope and faith. Let go of defensiveness, blame and resentment that originate in the needs of ego and feed the needs of your inner self. Move from a place of self protection to a place of self discovery.
“Our deepest wishes are whispers of our authentic selves. We must learn to respect them. We must learn to listen.” Sarah Ban Breathnach ~