HOʻOPONOPONO is an ancient Hawaiian practice for forgiveness, historically performed by priests called Kahuna. Anyone can benefit from this ritual. Creating a meditative, healing atmosphere adds to the ritual, light a candle or a salt lamp, burn incense or infuse essential oils. Start to list down the names of the people you have issues forgiving or that may need to forgive you.

When life is overwhelming and you find your self easily irritated include even those people who have remotely bothered you. If you have a conflict or altercation use this ritual to decompress the high emotions from the experience and let go of the place in your mind where resentment may build. It can be used for a single situation or with a list of resentments.

Ho’oponopono is a tool for atonement, for correcting errors, erasing the effects of past actions and memories that cause havoc and grief in our lives, the lives of others and on mother nature as a whole. The practice is meant to change your inner most emotional state to change perception from negativity to allow positive energy to flow in.

In the formal Hawaiian ceremony you would include all the people whom you have hurt across lifetimes. It repairs relationships for the highest good. We often find it difficult to forgive people who have hurt us and it is human nature to practice blame and justification. It is important to release anger, resentment, hurt and blame to find inner balance.

Obviously you will not know the names of the people you have hurt or who have hurt you in you in other lifetimes. So, just mention it as “everyone I have hurt across all directions of time.” and “everyone who has hurt me across all directions of time.”

Now begin the process and go through each of the names, mentally hold an image of the person in your mind and say.

HOʻOPONOPONO (name of person),

I am sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you

do this 2 – 3 times with each person and each time you say thank you, exhale through your mouth to release any negative attachment to that person and the resentment you had towards the person

All misunderstandings can be cleared with this ritual. HOʻOPONOPONO sends a message to the souls of the people, that all resentments are forgiven and let go of for the greater good.  This healing is taking place at a spiritually energetic level and is about letting go of the emotional attachment in our mind by working at a soul level.

Finish the process with an interaction with a power greater than yourself:

Dear Giver, Souce of Life…Use whatever term is meaningful to you and your spirituality; Giver Of Life, Creator, Universe, God, Spirit, Gaia, or anything that identifies a higher power of your understanding.

This is the acknowledgment of a power greater than ourselves who gives unconditional love and whose hands we can put our resentments into to a have them taken from us and cleared. 

Addressing a power greater than ourselves is fundamental to this process, since only something more divine and of pure unconditional love can fix the mess that we (and our ancestors) have created. 


  • This statement opens the door to atonement.  Recognize, without judgement, any negative manifestation you experience or witness to create opportunity for healing. 
  • Higher power does not require our apology because as this spiritual energy is without human emotion, but the vibration of our own energy that we use to communicate with the universe changes when we say we are sorry. 
  • The apology is an acknowledgement that we are sorry for whatever it is that we (or our ancestors before us) have done to cause adverse circumstance to take place.
  • There is no guilt or shame attached to this simple acknowledgement.
  • We are not giving permission for wrong done to us to go without addressing. We are letting go of the perceived responsibility we need to address it or hold on to its negativity to ensure justice. 
  • We say sorry to let go and accept the universe will set it right.


  • Ask forgiveness for having forgotten how much our higher power loves us.
  • Ask forgiveness for having shut out unconditional love and willingness. Fear often drives the need to be willful and we can ask to be absolved for mistakenly asserting the need for perceived control.
  • Ask forgiveness for any harm we have done to others and ourselves.
  • Do this with the faith that we have already been understood and forgiven, we just needed to complete the process by asking.  The Creator is Spirit and Unconditional Love, without human characteristics like that include emotions like anger, resentment and all other ego related behaviours. It is our humanity that blocks us from feeling the unconditional love that is without shame and guilt. This process connects us to an energy that will allow us to forgive ourselves.


  • Love is the energy of creation and of healing.  Sending out the universal energy of love will allow this energy to be returned through you to bring peace and well being.
  • Source, Spirit, the Creator, does not need your love, but the very act of thinking loving thoughts will tune your mind to that frequency with remarkable power and fill you with a positivity that generates more of the same good energies.
  • Fulfillment is found in becoming unconditional in giving and receiving love.


  • Saying thank you is the acknowledgement that your desire for  greater good has been heard.
  • Exhale remaining animosities and breathe in gratitude as you acknowledge the  power of changing energies and perception within this process.
  • Be thankful for the opportunity to learn and change.


The moment you take responsibility for your resentment, challenge or concern, and seek healing you will experience change. The response may not be immediately apparent or what you expect, but it will be what you need to start the process of healing and reconstruction. Trust it is happening inside you to bring resolution, and the reward will be worth your patience.


bamboo “If we can accept that we are the sum total of all past thoughts, emotions, words, deeds and actions and that our present lives and choices are colored or shaded by this memory bank of the past, then we begin to see how a process of correcting or setting aright can change our lives, our families and our society.” ~Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona